282. (11) They are adopted as means of amendment and as means of accommodation. Simulations of conjugial love are appearances of love and friendship between partners who differ in spirit; and they are adopted as means of amendment when a spiritual person is bound together by covenant of marriage with a natural one, because a spiritual person's whole intention is to amend their life. This he accomplishes by wise and refined conversations and by favors appealing to the other's nature. If these fall on deaf ears, however, and fail to affect the behavior of the other, he has as his intention to find means of accommodation, for the sake of preserving order in their domestic affairs, for the sake of maintaining the assistance they render each other, and for the sake of the infants and children, in addition to other, similar ends. For the words and deeds that issue from a spiritual person are inspired by justice and judgment, as we showed above in no. 280. [2] By contrast, in the case of partners neither of whom is spiritual but both natural, a similar effort may be made, but for other ends. If one or the other looks to amendment or accommodation, either his purpose is to coerce the other into conduct similar to his own and to subordinate the other to his wishes, or it is to gain certain services and turn them to his benefit and advantage. Or it may be for the sake of peace within the home, or for the sake of their reputation outside the home. Or it may be for the sake of various benefits hoped for from the partner or from the partner's relatives. Or it may be for the sake of other ends. However, in some people these ends are owing to a prudence born of reason, in some to a native civility, in some to a fear of losing the pleasures of lusts customary in them from birth, and other causes, the effect of which is to make their affectations of favor and seeming expressions of conjugial love either more or less insincere. There are also cases in which displays of favor and seeming expressions of conjugial love are adopted outside the home and none inside the home; but these are for the sake of their reputation, or if not for the sake of this, they are in the nature of a game.