Causes of coldnesses, separations and divorces, with consorts (853-1018 [CL 234-260]). Spiritual heat is love, and spiritual cold is no love (855-857 [CL 235]).

Spiritual celestial heat is the love of good and truth, and infernal spiritual heat is spiritual cold (858-862 [CL 235]).

There is spiritual coldness between consorts when there is not love, because there is not union of souls and is not conjunction of minds; whence there is indifference, contempt, disgust, aversion, enmity, hatred; from which at length with many there is separation as to bed, bed-chamber and house (867-869 [CL 236]).

The causes of coldness are interior, exterior, and accidental (870-874 [CL 237]).

Of the interior causes of coldness, the first is the rejection of all things of the church (875-891 [CL 240]):

The second cause is, that one has religion, and not the other (892-897 [CL 241]):

The third, diversity of religion, or that one has one religion and the other another (898-905 [CL 242]):

The fourth, falsity of religion imbued (906-912 [CL 243]):

The fifth, that the evil of whoredom is not believed to be sin; and more if it is confirmed that it is not sin (913-916 [CL 243]):

The universal interior cause of coldness is, all love of evil, especially the love of whoredom, of which there is variety; there is whoredom before marriage, with the wives of other men, there is meretricious love or love of concubinage after marriage, also the desire of defloration, the lust for varieties, the enticement of violation, and in general all that is lustful, from which the human conjugial perishes (918-928 [CL 244, 245]).

Of the exterior causes of coldness between consorts, the first is, dissimilitude of external minds (animorum) and manners (929-934 [CL 246]);

The second, inequality of state and condition in externals (935-938 [CL 246, 250]). The third, every cupidity of evil, especially that of having dominion on the part of one, and more when there is this desire in both (939-945 [CL 248]):

The fourth, that cohabitation with a wife from covenant and law seems forced, and not free; and thus a debt, and not free will (946-950 [CL 257]):

The fifth, that there is no determination to any pursuit, whence comes either stupid slothfulness or wandering cupidity (951-953 [CL 249]):

The sixth, that conjugial love is believed to be one with scortatory love (958-961 [CL 247]).

Of the external causes of coldness between consorts the first is a vitiated condition of the mind (962-966 [CL 252]):

The second, a vitiated condition of the body (967-971 [CL 253]):

The third, impotence (972-978 [CL 254]).

Of accidental causes of cold between consorts, the first is the commonness, from being continually allowable (994-1000 [CL 256]):

The second is, unseasonable solicitation by the wife, and immodest discourse by her respecting love (1001-1006 [CL 258]):

The third is, the thought of the husband at the side of his wife by night, and at the sight of her by day, that she is willing and he not yet able (1007-1012 [CL 259]);

A cause of coldness on the part of the wife, that she knows, hears or thinks that the husband is able but not willing (1013-1017 [CL 259]).

Man does not know of this coldness before the nuptials (1017, end).

Articles concerning coldness (2049 [CL 234]).

Some causes of coldness (Memorabilia 2053e [CL (208]).