275. (4) If inward affections that join the partners' minds are not present, however, the marriages come apart in the home. We say, in the home, because it takes place in private between them. It happens with the disappearance of their initial feelings of warmth, ignited at the time of their engagement and burning at the approach of their wedding, as these afterwards gradually die down because of the difference in their inward affections and finally vanish into states of coldness. People know that the outward affections which once induced and enticed them into marrying are then cast aside, so as to no longer join the two. We already established in the previous chapter that cold states arise for a variety of internal, external and incidental reasons - all of which draw their origins from a dissimilarity in inward inclinations. This makes plain the truth, that unless outward affections have present in them inner affections that join the partners' minds, marriages come apart in the home.